Is 'Lucky Girl Syndrome' Luck Or Self Awareness?

‘Lucky Girl Syndrome’ is one of the viral trends on TikTok sweeping the nation. I’m not a TikToker and heard about it much later on a medium more targeted to my (cough - older - cough) demographic - Hoda & Jenna. But it caught my attention because it probably works but for reasons that have nothing to do with luck.

What is 'Lucky Girl Syndrome'? 

The Lucky Girl Syndrome is characterized by an individual's ability to attract seemingly fortuitous outcomes consistently. It’s manifestation in a cuter outfit, complete with pretty TikTokers sharing their amazing results and swearing it will change your life. From winning contests to stumbling upon unexpected opportunities, these women appear to attract luck and claim you can too!

How Does It Work? 

Explanations of how it works center on the power of positive thinking - if you believe you’re lucky, you will be. But is there more to it? 


It reminds me an exercise I did earlier this year, in which I wrote my own obituary– Donald Miller’s more morbid approach to getting your desired outcomes. 


‘Lucky Girl Syndrome’ and writing your own obituary both challenge you to think about and declare what you want.


‘Lucky Girl Syndrome’ focuses on believing you’ll get what you want. Donald Miller’s exercise (as part of his 2022 book Hero on a Mission) challenges you to take it a step further and figure out what you want your life to mean- what do you want and why? With his approach, you create 10-year, 5-year, and 1-year goals to ultimately work towards what’s written in your obituary. 


For both, you need to answer to the question: what do you want? So, is knowing what you want and believing it will happen all you need to get it? 


Lucky Girl Syndrome says yes because of two psychological factors: 


1. Cognitive Biases: Human cognition is susceptible to biases that influence perception and decision-making. Your brain looks for confirmation of what you already believe. But it doesn’t just influence your belief, it influences your actions. If you believe you’re lucky, you seek out opportunities to confirm it. This is often subconscious, so you feel lucky when you get what you want, but it’s really, at least partially, the result of your actions. 

2. Reward System Activation: Neurologically, experiences perceived as positive or rewarding trigger the brain's reward system, primarily involving the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine. My friend @mashalyons posted a Jamie Varon quote on Instagram stories, which embodies this “syndrome”:


"Find a way to love your life so much that you feel lucky to be you. Like its a privilege just to wake up as yourself. Like you are utterly charmed by your own life. What a beautiful home you've built. What incredible friends you get to text all day. How you spend your time and your life- genius. What fun! What a strong mind you have. What a way you care for yourself and listen to your needs. What great kids or dogs or cats or plants you've raised. Wow, you've got this whole life thing figured out. Or, if not, look at you, trying to figure it out and fight for your joy. How lucky you are that you get to be you."


- Jamie Varon


Your luck is subjective. If you feel lucky, you are. 


The Role of Gratitude

Believing you are lucky requires gratitude for what you have as much as it requires thinking you’ll get what you want. Gratitude is essential because, it enables: 


  1. A Positive Mindset: Gratitude shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have. This positive mindset can fuel your motivation, resilience, and satisfaction.
  2. Resilience: Gratitude reframes setbacks as opportunities. When you're grateful, you're better equipped to find silver linings in difficult situations and learn from setbacks.
  3. Improved Relationships: Gratitude strengthens relationships by fostering a sense of connection and appreciation for others. Being genuinely appreciated helps others feel more connected to you, which increases their desire to help you. 
  4. Enhanced Mental Health: Gratitude is linked to numerous mental health benefits, including reduced stress, anxiety, and depression - all of which get in the way of feeling lucky. 
  5. Increased Productivity and Performance: Studies have shown that gratitude correlates with success. When you're grateful for the opportunities, resources, and abilities you have, you're more likely to make the most of them. Grateful individuals tend to be more proactive, creative, and goal-oriented.
  6. Better Opportunities: The laws of attraction suggests that like attracts like. When you radiate gratitude, you attract more positive experiences and opportunities into your life. Others are drawn to those who exude positivity and appreciation. 
  7. Physical Health Benefits: Gratitude has been linked to numerous physical health benefits, including better sleep, stronger immune function, and lower blood pressure. 

The Role of Knowing What You Want

When 'Lucky Girl Syndrome' asserts that if you believe good things will happen to you, they do, it forces you to define “good things”, which does the following: 


  1. Sets Goals: When you know where you’re going, getting there is much easier.
  2. Improves Self-Awareness: Knowing what you want requires self-awareness—understanding your strengths, values, and passions. This adds meaning to your life and helps you understand why you want the things you do.
  3. Empowers You: A clear sense of what you want empowers you to take control of getting it. 


Donald Miller’s obituary exercise encourages you to look at not just what you want, but how you’re going to get there. His approach is ideal for planners, Enneagram 3s, and people with very specific goals. But if that approach doesn’t appeal to you, knowing what you want and believing you will get it enables your subconscious to work towards it. Maybe that's enough.


I'm not saying that knowing what you want and believing you'll get it eliminates obstacles, failures, and disappointments. Nor am I arguing that luck has nothing to do with success or good outcomes, a number of studies and books confirm that it does. But how much of a person’s luck is fueled by gratitude, self awareness, and faith? 



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